TORN QUESTIONS

When did you last feel ‘torn’?
At odds with yourself. Divided. Undecided. Conflicted.

The Torn Project aims to understand inner conflict and so discover the best ways to resolve it.

The most effective way to do this is through people’s experiences, thoughts, feelings – their personal stories.

To help you tell your story, here are five questions about the experience of being torn.

These guidelines may help you tell your story.

You can answer as many or as few questions as you like.
If you can’t remember your story exactly, take your best guess.
Your story is still valuable however long ago it happened.
Your story is still valuable whether or not you’ve resolved your conflict.
It’s fine to write a lot or a little. Examples are good. Thoughts and feelings are good.
Your work won’t be used in any but the most general way.
Everyone’s answer helps.

Reminder: You can answer as many or as few questions as you like. You can remain completely anonymous (though if you want to receive updates I will need to know your email address).

When you tell your story, you could write about: How did you feel when you were ‘torn’. What did you do? Did you resolve your conflict? If not, how do you feel about it now? If so, how did you resolve it and how did you feel about it then? How do you feel now?

Tell your story of one or more ‘mild, temporary’ internal conflicts - such as what to eat for supper, or what to wear.

Tell your story of one or more ‘serious but time-specific’ internal conflicts you’ve experienced – such as whether to start a job, or whether to end a relationship.

Tell your story of one or more ‘deep-rooted, long-term’ internal conflicts you’ve experienced – such as balancing family loyalty with career commitment, or wanting to please others but wanting to please yourself.

How important/relevant is the topic of inner conflict to you? Why?

Ideally, how could The Torn Project help people understand and resolve inner conflicts? All ideas – however unusual – are welcome!

Name

How I heard about The Torn Project:

Updates

I would like to receive monthly updates of new ideas about internal conflict that The Torn Project has found interesting or share-worthy.

Permission

I am happy for you to use my story as a general example, with all recognisable details changed.